tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.comments2023-10-28T01:37:40.656-07:00Ben Pobjie's Wonderful World Of ObjectsBen Pobjiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07320337293942659210noreply@blogger.comBlogger2178125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-57570805495476656762016-04-30T03:10:05.055-07:002016-04-30T03:10:05.055-07:00I was brought up Catholic and still identify as su...I was brought up Catholic and still identify as such, but I never really got the teaching of forgiveness until I saw a news report on the Balkans war. <br /><br />It showed a young boy of maybe 7 in hospital after seeing his entire family killed. It occurred to me that in a few short years, the fear and terror in his eyes would turn to anger and hatred, and he would want to do exactly the same thing to the children of those who had done it to him. And who could blame him for wanting that? And I realised it would keep going every generation until someone decided not to carry the grudge any longer. It's one of the most courageous things you can do.Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03412983524190021368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-45160489595632527302016-03-08T21:45:30.759-08:002016-03-08T21:45:30.759-08:00"I've got a little bone too" says Ne..."I've got a little bone too" says Nev,not understanding what the conversation is about" - I have tears pouring down my face, this is too funny x Bron Cookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07968698750222811514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-57153547360136360452015-12-19T16:25:04.944-08:002015-12-19T16:25:04.944-08:00Applause!Applause!David Irving (no relation)https://www.blogger.com/profile/05728918405973140125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-72579341842102078092015-12-14T15:19:50.602-08:002015-12-14T15:19:50.602-08:00YepYepJuliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16966379664865313014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-50520047130322737742015-11-16T04:22:58.486-08:002015-11-16T04:22:58.486-08:00This is great Ben and i found myself agreeing with...This is great Ben and i found myself agreeing with you. Thanks for your rational thinking and honesty. So refreshing.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12780608841613104503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-30023289471749511522015-11-09T23:58:35.600-08:002015-11-09T23:58:35.600-08:00The assumption of the existence of evolution in qu...The assumption of the existence of evolution in question 8 is going to be problematic. Otherwise, a fine list. PTRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01804620638450848244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-91496379250035165172015-11-03T20:05:11.137-08:002015-11-03T20:05:11.137-08:00*hugs* It's a fair call. You know that a lot o...*hugs* It's a fair call. You know that a lot of your friends suffer depression too, so we know what you're experiencing and the inevitability of it happening again and how the world will frequently feel purposeless.<br /><br />So let me say that I get what you say. I hear it in my bones. And I have a friend currently in a psych ward, we talk every day by email. And I've told her, if you die I'll be sad but not devastated. I'll be ok with it, because I know that I've told you I loved you, that I've listened to your story and told you mine honestly, that we had joy and that you've tried everything you could. <br /><br />We haven't talked, not like that. I would feel regret that I couldn't help. Joy remembering how we met, how much you made me laugh. And a deep sorrow for your children, because they just aren't old enough to not somehow feel responsible for your death.<br /><br />Give it time, hon. As they get older, you can talk to them. Explain that you find life exceptionally hard. That chemicals in your brain make the world feel awful to you and that you're trying to stick around and that doing that takes everything you have some days. Be honest with them and let them know that you're doing your best. <br /><br />Just - try to stick it out til they're a bit bigger and can have some great moments with you, pivotal moments they want a dad around for. And just in case, write them letters to open in the future. Because I know you want to be there.<br /><br />And then I think I'll feel the same way for you as I feel for my friend. That we had a good time together. That we tried our best. And that there are no regrets. xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09959468106891779636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-37711803341534639892015-10-12T16:23:03.117-07:002015-10-12T16:23:03.117-07:00Hey Ben,
Breaking up is hard to do I recommend mov...Hey Ben,<br />Breaking up is hard to do I <a href="http://australianmarketsdirectory.blogspot.com/2015/10/christmas-hampers-delivered-australia.html" rel="nofollow">recommend</a> moving house or flat so you have a new environment to clear the space and make it less hostile and about the past. Bren + Lucyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05087946047217163847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-59001715230675012292015-06-16T12:38:02.893-07:002015-06-16T12:38:02.893-07:00Thank you. I was feeling alone in my contempt.
...Thank you. I was feeling alone in my contempt.<br /><br /><br /><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00250018357036572137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-62586883766574720582015-02-28T17:15:14.020-08:002015-02-28T17:15:14.020-08:00That was hard to read because it was so true. That was hard to read because it was so true. Roshyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14127567450783756387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-16065909676728706582015-02-27T05:29:16.788-08:002015-02-27T05:29:16.788-08:00I can't believe that this government isn't...I can't believe that this government isn't actually swinging from lamp-posts. Jojohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18103629419466740600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-27708007110349125812015-02-27T03:08:09.874-08:002015-02-27T03:08:09.874-08:00Oh Ben. This is heartrending because it is so true...Oh Ben. This is heartrending because it is so true. Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14985582390388096903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-41238510025293322162014-12-19T01:58:45.447-08:002014-12-19T01:58:45.447-08:00Bit of a belated comment, if you are going to a pr...Bit of a belated comment, if you are going to a proper astrologicalogolist, you need to post the stars more often. It doesn't hurt if you put a expensive phone number after each stars posting either. Been awhile since I've posted on your site, thank the lefty feed from ABC for this one. Have to say it made me feel happier, last time I was way past my fourth beer and was already happy, (your ABC post on The Interview and subsequent site link). In a world gone crazy, small and big picture, it was the antidote I needed, plus several more beers and a bit of wine. And furthermore you know Pisceans are very fragile folk? Someone told me what to do, said I was good at it(writing), so I had a go, petered out at Chrissy. So I will take the summer break. Merry Christmas.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-88623658936183814042014-12-16T03:01:21.356-08:002014-12-16T03:01:21.356-08:00Brilliant. I've been struggling with writing a...Brilliant. I've been struggling with writing a blog post about a number of local outbreaks of harassment and your post has helped clarify the argument in my mind. Immensely. Mind if I link to your post in mine when I get it written?www.alexsings.cahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06137244900881203142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-62667480489224235462014-11-22T16:16:06.604-08:002014-11-22T16:16:06.604-08:00Check out the parodies of it on Youtube.
Check out the parodies of it on Youtube. <br /><br />Doug Quixotenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-16475065525118968032014-11-16T00:42:59.700-08:002014-11-16T00:42:59.700-08:00Love this post and your honesty Ben :)Love this post and your honesty Ben :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-90179196763250087322014-11-12T03:38:28.753-08:002014-11-12T03:38:28.753-08:00I don't. Even. Wow. Poor Cheese Dude. I'll...I don't. Even. Wow. Poor Cheese Dude. I'll never look at cheddar in the same way again.FiveFrogsBloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10426017393667935109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-57283664168905011662014-11-10T05:15:43.519-08:002014-11-10T05:15:43.519-08:00Like the other Anon I've stayed up reading you...Like the other Anon I've stayed up reading your posts on those nights. You know the ones. Not some shit circle jerk post like you get on some sites about embracing your dark times and learning to ~love yourself~. Yours about the times where it's like, I just need to find a way to make someone care. I've never read something that put things into such perfect, terribly simple truth. i love your blog and i wish you well. Would want to give you a hug too if, like, we'd ever met (bit conservative in that way, what can I say)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-50678280572165995902014-11-08T21:47:12.642-08:002014-11-08T21:47:12.642-08:00This is sensational!! This is sensational!! Jillnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-82060864513320700862014-11-05T16:44:23.671-08:002014-11-05T16:44:23.671-08:00**applauds****applauds**Wanderlusthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12099758957492165428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-55413352301098166092014-10-29T15:45:32.917-07:002014-10-29T15:45:32.917-07:00I hope it doesn't kill you.I hope it doesn't kill you.Jo H.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13489890415848995136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-16457286064698337592014-10-28T07:18:01.272-07:002014-10-28T07:18:01.272-07:00This might be meaningless drivel, but if it is, it...This might be meaningless drivel, but if it is, it's at least honest meaningless drivel.<br /><br />I say this as someone who cut myself; who has crouched weeping in the back of a dibby van; who stayed up refreshing Twitter, trembling, on nights you said you wanted to end your life and who found solace in your writing on nights I wanted to end my own and didn't tell anyone.<br /><br />It's not really a disease. That's just a metaphor that's helpful sometimes.<br /><br />But it's definitely not what it says it is. Just because it speaks in one's voice doesn't mean the things it says is true. Objectively examined, and that means without the pain, all the pernicious slurs and malevolent judgements are complete and utter bullshit. They're false and unhelpful cognitive beliefs that can be logically debunked. We all have them, the decibels just vary from person to person from moment to moment, and all of that is okay.<br /><br />I can't know what you are experiencing, but for me, one of the most insidious lies is that there's some underlying truth beneath all of that self-abuse, because it seems impossible that so much suffering could not be somehow legitimate.<br /><br />The pain is real, but it's not true.<br /><br />Ben, you are not destined to die by your hand. The idea that you are is false. That door can and does close, I've seen people deeper in despair than I could ever comprehend resolutely lock it forever.<br /><br />I deeply admire you and you have had a significant impact on my life. My thoughts and feelings are with you, and whatever depression may be, its vastly less than you are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-81088545756759880502014-10-28T06:37:05.012-07:002014-10-28T06:37:05.012-07:00Great article Ben. Made me think about my illness ...Great article Ben. Made me think about my illness differently. I suppose there's still a stigma attached to depression that hasn't gone away despite all the airtime depression gets, so to speak. Anyway I know that there a lot of people who love your writings and like you as a person. Those people would want to help you if you needed it. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05521558307335064266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-70060253658822002272014-10-26T18:50:18.932-07:002014-10-26T18:50:18.932-07:00Funny funny. Don't ever stop. Thank you.Funny funny. Don't ever stop. Thank you.Patnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-281415506871751523.post-17635693890196580962014-10-26T18:43:18.703-07:002014-10-26T18:43:18.703-07:00Thank you very much, Ben.Thank you very much, Ben.Patnoreply@blogger.com